Introducing our new little bundle of joy- Persephone Shiraz Rahmanian. She was born on February 22nd and weighed 7 lbs 1 oz. She is named after the Greek mythology Goddess of Spring and Queen of the Underworld, who's story is one of love, grief, celebration and the changing of the seasons. Her middle name is after the city in Iran known for it's poets, literature, flowers and wine.
We are so thrilled this time to have a girl. She is so pleasant and wonderful, all I want to do all day is snuggle and squeeze her. Her nickname is garden gnome, because she's cute and funny looking like a garden gnome :) Hubby says she emits the same calm energy as I do, and she rarely cries. After two boys and a miscarriage, I didn't want to get too excited and jinx my luck. Having a girl in addition to the two boys seemed too good to be true! I was so happy for the boys to have a sister and it just seemed like the perfect addition to the family. To avoid any jinxing (as we are great believers in Sod's law) we didn't tell anyone the gender, due date or name. I didn't have a baby shower, didn't prepare the nursery until the night before her arrival, and only bought two outfits for her prior to her arrival.
Here's hubby staying up all night putting together her room the night before..... <3
The night before our scheduled c section I felt SO ready and excited to get this baby out. Pregnancy is such a pain in my backside that going to the hospital for a c section felt like going on a much needed vacation, where I could rest, sleep, sleep some more, and order room service. When we arrived at the hospital everything went like clockwork. Everything was as expected, timely and organized. It couldn't have gone smoother. We arrived at 5:30am, signed my life away on a bunch of forms, had an iv put in, got prepped for surgery, and the baby came out at 8:11am, crying kicking and screaming with a head full of hair and a body full of fuzz. I gave birth to a chunky monkey! We later found out that the umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck twice! How terrifying! Everything turned out great though.
And here is that obligatory family c section pic. I had to force a smile as I felt like a ton of bricks were crushing my chest and shoulders. They then pumped me with meds that I spent the remainder of the day vomiting up. Apparently the more c sections you have the longer the surgery is and the worse you feel during it, or at least that's what happened to me. Oh so glad that is over :)
I still cannot believe I have a daughter. I kept staring at her after she was born like, did this just happen? Do we really have a GIRL and THREE kids now??? Holy $h!t!!!!!!!
Here she is in her coming home outfit!!!! We were so excited to introduce her to her big brothers :)
Valentino was totally welcoming and excited to have a baby join the family. Caspian was as well but he doesn't yet understand much. He thinks it's funny when she cries and imitates her cries. Valentino becomes concerned when he hears her crying and tells me that "baby is sad!!!" I have a feeling they will both be fantastic brothers.
It's been about two weeks since we brought her home, and I've been taking it real easy, kicking my feet up and letting hubby take charge of everything. We have a great system where hubby is in charge of everything like the boys, taking them to and from school, feeding them, bathing them, doing bedtime routines, doing chores, running errands, helping me with baby feedings and bringing me breakfast lunch and dinner in bed :) In return, I try to do as many night feedings as I can so that he can get some sleep. I try to just sleep whenever baby does, but it's still hard and we are both so sleep deprived that we just look like zombies! I'm so lucky to have such an involved and helpful hubby who's mission it is to keep me as comfortable as can be! He's got this baby thing down!
Welcoming a third child has been much more relaxing than I thought it would be, and anxiety free. I was expecting chaos, stress and all hell to break loose. So far so good though. Welcoming Persephone has been one of the greatest things we have done. I feel so happy to become a mom again for the third time, and still in shock over having three kids. Knowing how fast they grow up, I spend my days holding her tight, snuggling, being grateful and just living in the moment.
Happy New Year everyone! I don't know about you, but I am so relieved to say goodbye to 2016. It was such an unbelievable year! Everything after June (when I found out I was expecting) has been a blur!
Here's a recap of my crazy year.....
January 2016 through May 2016 was fantastic! I felt great, the kids were doing great, hubby was doing great. We both looked thin and fantastic due to our miracle Keto diet, and so we took out our old boxes of clothes from our pre-baby days and tried everything on, and were so surprised to fit into everything!!!! We then stored all our old L and XL clothes into the buckets and sent them to the basement thinking we would never see them again.
Then on Father's Day we found out we were expecting! That was a REALLY big and wonderful surprise!!! We knew we always wanted a third child, but the timing of this completely caught us off guard. We were overjoyed and super excited about this miracle baby, who was determined to make its way into the world!
Shortly after finding out, I was struck down with intense bouts of morning sickness that lasted a good 4 months. The entire summer of 2016 was a complete blur. I cannot even explain to you how bad it was. It was like going through 4 months of feeling like you have food poisoning, or having the worst hangover of your life. Multiple times a week I would have to pull the car over and vomit on the side of the road. It was super embarrasing. We had a live in nanny for about a month to help out, but that was short lived. To say my pregnancies are difficult is putting it very lightly.
Also during late summer we moved house. That was right when Caspian started school, and right when I caught a bug that left me with a cough that lasted two months and I was constantly gagging and vomiting during our entire move. I was utterly miserable.
Then around October and November 2016, something crazy happened to me! My pharmacy gave me the wrong pills in the correct prescription bottle. The wrong pills were mixed in with some of the correct pills, and they all looked the same, so I took them for the entire month until I had a few left and realized I was taking something that I wasn't supposed to. Then I discovered that the pills I was taking should not be taken by pregnant women as they CAUSE BIRTH DEFECTS. I immediately went to the doctors who informed me that due to that mistake my thyroid levels were dangerously off. Thanks a lot pharmacy!
Because of that whole pill fiasco, during the months of November and December 2016, I had to constantly go see different doctors, write letters to multiple healthcare professionals, be tested a million times and it seemed like every few days I had a medical appointment.
And while all this was happening, everyone was fliiping their $h!t about the presidential elections and all these celebrities dying. Because I was going through something so traumatic and irritating, I couldn't empathize with anyone who was badly effcted by the outcome of the elections and the dying celebrities. I really couldn't understand why people were making out to be the end of the world. To cry because your favorite singer died or because your favorite candidate didn't win seemed absurd to me. Is it insensitive of me to want to yell out to the world: "GET OVER IT?" Ok, maybe that's a tad bit insensitive. I will attempt to exercise more empathy.
On a more positive note, Caspian started school in September 2016 and has really taken to it. He's in Valentino's class, and big brother looks after him :) The kids have been doing so great. Valentino has turned 3 and Caspian has turned 2 in December. They play so well together and I couldn't have asked for better kids. They eat well, sleep well, and are just overall well adjusted happy kids. Hubby takes them to school in the mornings so that I can sleep in, as the pelvic and sciatic pains keep me up all night.
There have also been a few other things that happened this year that I am not at liberty to discuss yet, and that have impacted our lives, in the not-so-greatest of ways. We are still dealing with those things and maybe one day I'll divulge, but for now I just can't.
We ended 2016 with the whole family being sick and a trip to the emergency room for me. I wasn't able to breathe through my nose at all for four days and then on the fifth day I couldn't even breathe from my mouth as it would cause me to gag and vomit. At nights I wouldn't be able to sleep, and would sit in a hot shower multiple times in the middle of the night so that I could breathe (I didn't sleep for 5 nights in a row!). Then when I did manage to sleep for a few minutes I would wake up suddenly gasping for air due to choking on heartburn. Oh the joys of pregnancy!
So here's to 2017. You better have something REALLY good in store for me. I'll just be here, waiting patiently :-)
Exactly one month ago we started potty training Valentino. He had just turned three and has made so much progress in all developmental areas that we thought he was definitely ready to take the plunge.
The night before we started, hubby went out and bought potty training necessities that included:
We already had a toilet training potty so we felt prepared and excited for how he will take to it. We had both thought that he would just be one walking accident, and that he would pee and poo all over the floor everywhere all day every day. We were a bit terrified, as our house is mostly carpet, so we removed Valentino's pricey pottery barn rug that was in his room and replaced it with a cheap hideous looking rug from Walmart that was only $22. Who knew you could buy a rug for $22??
During the first day of potty training, we took off his diaper and threw it away in front of him and said "Bye bye" to it. He waved at it and said bye bye. My heart melts.
Then we had him run around naked from waist down in his room, gave him a sippy cup of milk, and then we both sat and watched him drink his milk and run around his room for what seemed like hours. We put his potty on the Walmart rug and as soon as I saw him do a little tinkle, I RAN and quickly put him on the potty. He continued to pee, and I showed him how to point his wee wee down into the potty so his peepee doesn't spray everywhere. He completely took to it and thought it was the coolest thing!
After he was done we all did a happy dance around the potty, and kept pointing to the pee saying YAAAAAY and clapping and jumping up and down. Then we had him clean up his little tinkle that he did on the carpet.
That first day I watched him like a hawk, and I nearly spent the entire day in his room doing this. Hubby took charge of taking care of Caspian while me and Valentino worked on potty training. We sat on the potty and read lots of books and also watched Peppa Pig on the ipad. We spent time working on counting and on colors. He really enjoyed all this one on one time.
Whenever Valentino has a successful go on the adult toilet, he gets really excited about his accomplishment and immediately after washing his hands he goes and gives Caspian a big hug. Not me or daddy, just Caspian. He's so funny.
So Valentino has completely taken to helping clean up his accidents. It's the cutest thing. I love how OCD he is about cleanliness, if there is a drop of pee anywhere he gets really upset about it until it's all cleaned up. If he has an accident in his pants he also freaks out about that too. He knows his routine of washing his hands right after he goes potty.
On his second day of potty training I was having a lot of pregnancy issues, and I projectile vomited water all over the rug that Valentino was practicing his potty on. He politely came and helped me clean up all of mommy's vomit. He is my heart <3
After the first week of potty training, we were averaging about 1 to 2 accidents per day. Some days he would get by with no accidents, and then I would get excited and think he has completely got it, and then other days he would have 2 accidents and I would be crushed and defeated.
Now after a month has passed, he will only have an accident if they potty isn't nearby. He has completely got it and rarely has accidents now, and he's done so well in school that they have moved him up from the toddler class to the primary class. He's such a big boy now and I am so proud of him!!!
The only issue I'm having now is to get him to go potty when he is excited. He will only have accidents when he's having a great time playing with Caspian and is too excited to stop playing and go potty. I also haven't dared to take him out and about for fear of not having the potty close by. On average he goes potty 7 to 8 times per day; so you can imagine how much time I have to spend cleaning potty and constantly being on the lookout for him pottying. We put so much time and effort into this that it literally has been a month since we have gone anywhere (except to their school of course). With the new baby coming soon I think we won't be going anywhere until Spring! I really miss our family date nights with the boys dressed in their best suits. I think those nights won't happen now for a while :( My life right now revolves around the potty, AND preparing for baby #3!
Caspian has recently turned two! I cannot get over it, what happened to my little baby? He's a big boy now!
We had a little family celebration on his birthday, and earlier in the month he had a joint birthday party with Valentino.
This past year Caspian has made so much progress in all areas. Initially I was really worried about him being a late walker and being super wobbly (he still is quite wobbly) but he has gotten so much sturdier and climbs and jumps around like a little monkey. His vocabulary is also flourishing, and he basically repeats everything he hears! We call him a parrot. His favorite words are: shadow, cars, apple, yucky, Tino, and indeed! His dad taught him indeed- he says it with so much enthusiasm it's hilarious. The other night I even heard him count to 6, I couldn't believe it!
Every day Caspian looks more and more like his paternal grandfather. So much so that hubby has started calling him "Dad." :) Caspian has quite a few nicknames. Our favorite one is "Bobby duck." He just looks like a bobby, and he walks like a duck, and i don't know why but it just suits him. Then Valentino picked up on that and he now thinks Caspian's name is Bob. We just go along with it too, as Caspian isn't the easiest of names for a toddler :)
One thing I love about Caspian is his love for music. He sings along to nursery rhymes and I constantly find him bopping his head to house music in the car. Of course he also enjoys his classical music. This has worked out well for me as I have planned for him to be first chair violinist in the orchestra when he is older. No pressure Caspian!
Caspian also loves to eat. His favorite foods are raspberries and yogurt. At school he will steal his classmates raspberries and quickly stuff them in his mouth. He is also quite the charmer, and his teacher told us he seems to have a girlfriend already :)
Happy Birthday Caspian! We all love you so much <3
This year our Christmas celebrations were very low key and simple, yet joyous. Being in the third trimester I had to scale back a lot this year, and it still kicked my butt. Last year I wasn't pregnant, and I put up 7 Christmas trees and fully decorated the house in November. This year I struggled decorating the one Christmas tree that we put up, on midnight Christmas Eve. We almost came to the conclusion that we would have to skip Christmas this year, as we were all so sick. Me and hubby caught a bug from the kids that resembled the flu, and it affected me more as I already had an abundance of annoying pregnancy symptoms. All of us were stuck at home with fevers, sore throats and aches and pains. I vomited every day and had to go to the hospital because I couldn't breathe. Christmas almost didn't happen! BUT..... we toughed it out and I managed to decorate the tree, prepare a nice dinner, wrap the presents, and hubby put together the outdoor Christmas decorations, all just in time! I think I enjoyed it that much more knowing how hard me and hubby worked and pushed ourselves to make it special for the kids. They had the best time of their lives and that just made it so worth it for us. Hubby spent a lot of time and energy decorating our deck and turning it into a winter wonderland with lights! Every night the kids would run around the house super excited about the outdoor decorations. Valentino calls our huge inflatable Christmas bear "Mismis bear" and the snowman "owman" and the Christmas tree "Mismis tree"! Caspian's favorite thing to do is stare out all the windows to look at the lights, and he also likes to grab at the lights on the Christmas tree. He's so naughty. They melt my heart.
Here's a peek!